Going to couples therapy is not a guarantee that things will feel better immediately. Intimacy can be uncomfortable at times and exposing your inner worlds to each another carries inherent risk. Ultimately, going deeper can be immensely satisfying, but requires persistence and courage. In order to be supportive of your relationship, I will discuss with you the importance of a therapist not holding secrets for one partner in the context of couples therapy. In a few situations, couples therapy may not be recommended, one of them being if there is active physical violence on the part of either partner. Anger transformed, however, can be a powerful inner motivator. Effective communication of the feelings and thoughts underlying anger can restore security and connectedness in your relationship.

Intimacy can be one of the more intricately varied creative endeavors you engage in and you definitely deserve to explore the hidden potential in your marriage or partnership. Highs and lows, joys and sorrows, give and take in the experience of feeling close and connected can be expected in every relationship. Couples therapy is a powerful path for exploring all these possibilities and more.

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