Some possible focus areas that may come up in therapy are communication patterns, typical conflict interactions, or in the case where one or both partners are feeling overwhelmed by a circumstance, finding support and gaining understanding of choices and options. Often, some exploration of each person’s early relationships inside the family they grew up in can be helpful, as those experiences tend to follow us into our current relationships in unconscious ways.

Sometimes learning to calm and soothe yourself in a time when the spark in your marriage seems to have died away, can contribute in surprising ways to renewal of passion between you. How the dynamics of the bond between you is played out in the day-to-day, emotional, sexual, intellectual and spiritual aspects of your coupling may be some of what you may want to explore together.

Going to couples therapy is not a guarantee that things will feel better immediately. Intimacy can be uncomfortable at times and exposing your inner worlds to each another carries inherent risk. Ultimately, going deeper can be immensely satisfying, but requires persistence and courage.

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